I have a confession to make in this post. In the months of November and December, I failed to reach savings goals. I saved nothing in November and saved half of what I wanted to in December. Es ist mein schuld! It is my fault (schuld is also used as the German word for debt!) and am now trying to cope with lack of discipline while chasing Financial Independence.
Did Black Friday made me fail to reach savings goals?
The truth here is a combination of gift giving and planning for future travel. In the past 30 days I spent money on gifts for our anniversary, my wife’s birthday, a dinner on that birthday and gifts for a friend who just got married. You see a pattern here?
How did I get there?
My failing to save in November was quite disappointing, and I had resolved to make amends in December.
Come December, I fell off the wagon, I avoided reading any FI content to hide behind my shame. Today, I finally felt brave enough to look myself in the mirror and forgave myself.
I have little regret for spending money on people I cared about, and was conscious to not go overboard. What I did fail at was not being able to plan these expenses.
and survival checklist?
Ah yes, the Dave Ramsey approach is to eat rice and beans! My checklist to survive when you fail to reach saving goals:
- Is this a symptom of a bigger issue? Am I not able to control myself here? No
- Is this temporary or a permanent expenses which I cannot handle? No
- Were my savings goals too big that they simply put me off and I felt I won’t get there anyway? Maybe
So, I aimed to save more than 1k EUR per month, and the goal was far too high to achieve. Like my dieting attempts, the high goal simply made progress impossible. In the tight months I could have lowered the targets and survived the frustration.
I also suggest this beautiful Everyday App, which makes it super easy to track changes.